Being Smart Isn’t Always Loud: Redefining Intelligence and Leadership
Let’s get real for a second. Have you ever been in a conversation where someone talks to you like you’re clueless? Maybe they over-explain things you already know or make you feel like your ideas don’t quite measure up. (Dare I say it… mansplained?)
If you’ve ever felt like you had to prove your worth or intelligence to others, you’re not alone. And trust me, I get it.
Here’s a little about me: I have a doctorate in education, 20 years of experience working with kids, and a lifetime of learning under my belt. But you wouldn’t know that just by looking at me or talking to me casually. I don’t walk into a room with a big “I’m the smartest person here” energy. I don’t lead with my resume or an esteemed presence. I tend to lean casual, relaxed, and approachable. And you know what? That’s intentional.
Listening Is a Superpower
Some people confuse quiet or laid-back energy with weakness or unintelligence. But the truth is, listening—really listening—is one of the smartest things you can do.
Listening allows you to:
Hear voices that don’t often get the chance to speak.
Read the room and understand the energy and emotions at play.
Make better, more informed decisions.
My leadership style isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room. It’s about creating space—space for others to contribute, share ideas, and feel valued. It’s about recognizing that intelligence isn’t just about knowing facts or having the best ideas; it’s about knowing when to speak, when to listen, and how to make others feel seen and heard.
Being Smart Isn’t Always About Speaking
Here’s a life hack for you, GRLs: being smart doesn’t mean always having all the answers or needing to prove how much you know. It’s about asking the right questions, staying curious, and being open to learning from every situation and person around you.
When you ask questions, you’re not showing weakness—you’re showing courage and a desire to grow. Asking questions helps you:
Gain clarity and deeper understanding.
Uncover facts and feelings that might be hidden beneath the surface.
Show others that their input matters, which makes them feel valued and respected.
So the next time you’re in a room, don’t hesitate to raise your hand, ask for clarification, or share your thoughts. Your curiosity and willingness to learn are powerful tools.
Don’t Let Others Diminish Your Worth
The world is full of people who will try to make you feel “less than.” Maybe it’s because of your age, your gender, your demeanor, or something else entirely. But let me remind you of this: Your worth is not up for debate.
Your intelligence, your potential, and your value are not defined by how others perceive you. They’re defined by how you show up, how you listen, how you learn, and how you lead.
Confidence in Your Quiet Strength
You don’t have to shout to make an impact. You don’t have to dominate every conversation to be smart. True intelligence is about understanding when to speak and when to listen, when to lead and when to learn.
So to all the GRLs (and their parents) reading this: don’t let anyone mistake your leadership style or quiet strength for weakness. Don’t let anyone convince you that asking questions means you’re less intelligent.
The next time someone underestimates you, let them. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Keep showing up, keep listening, and keep learning. Because being smart isn’t about being the loudest voice in the room—it’s about knowing how to use your voice in a way that moves everyone forward.
And trust me, GRLs, that is what sets you apart. 💪✨
